The Father I Want To Be
Carlos has just found out that he is going to be a father. Since he heard the news, he has been overwhelmed by a lot of feelings, he wants his baby like nothing in the world, but he feels fear; yes fear, that simple. A torrential of questions go through his mind, but one of the key questions is: What is the father I want to be like? Will I be severe? Kind? Very noble or very rigid?
The news of the baby’s arrival made Carlos reconnect with his feelings, little by little he began to get the answers to his questions and, from his deep meditation, sentences like this emerge: I want to be an improved version of myself, I want to have the enough wisdom to give my son all the appropriate answers to the doubts that he gets, just as my father did with me.
From my dad I learned that a good father is not afraid to show his son that he is also human and cries, that there is nothing wrong with shedding tears if the situation warrants it, after all tears help to unburden himself. soul.
From my father I also learned that knowing and connecting with your own feelings, and also with those of others, beyond being a weakness, endows you with courage, a quality that few men possess and, by his side, among other things, I also understood that washing the dishes or the floor of the house does not make us more or less men.
Today’s society is governed by very old standards about how a man should behave. It is a stereotype in which the “ideal of a man” behavior is loaded with a harshness that is accompanied by concepts that invite not to show feelings.
How many men have not wanted to vent a sorrow through crying? And how many of these men have repressed their crying by remembering phrases such as: Men do not cry or hold out like males, when the truth is that those phrases contain within themselves the most erroneous concepts that they have been able to instill in the male gender.
A good father guides you
During his reflection, Carlos also discovered this: The father I want to be will not come home tired evading his family, rather he has understood that the same impetus and emotion that he has put in the university or at work he has to put now in your home, as this is where you will find the legacy you leave to this world. That father knows that work ends when the workday ends, but life does not, at home he will be waiting for the whole life of a family, “my family, the bulwark of my future,” he says.
The father I want to be must serve as a leader and guide; That is why I must act consistently with my words and thoughts, because I have understood that my son will be my reflection and that therefore I must always strive not to disappoint him, I must always act with rectitude and honesty ; that’s the best example I can give you.
I am going to be the human super hero, this, unlike the ones you will see on the big screen in cinemas, is to be a real and palpable hero who, among other things, can answer questions, lend a hand at the right time and make you feel safe. Ha! Those are true human powers.
Example is the true value of a super parent
A super dad knows that we can all fall, but also that we can all get up and that in this lies the real difficulty of being a father, in getting every day the reason to get up when falling and educate the child, make him see his mistakes and correct him without hurt him, educate him with Solomonic wisdom, always seeking equity and justice, values that should begin to shine in the house, so that the child discovers that not only is justice found at home but that he is wherever he goes.
One of my main missions is to teach my son that life is full of small details and that these are the ones that make the difference in everything.
The details are infinite and from them we realize that each being is unique, worthy of being admired and appreciated carefully; This is a good lesson to learn when you are a child, it is essential and should never be forgotten, because it will keep you away from being a boring adult, it will help you to preserve the purity of the first years, when we believe that everything is possible and that the evil does not exist.
I am a man who prefers fidelity, who has understood that it is better to be the man of one woman than to be the man of many women, that loyalty and commitment is a task that is only assumed by true men, by the bravest … And I am also aware that words come and go but acts are remembered forever.
Many are those who actually have a good speech to conquer, offer and woo, but there are very few who act the same every day regardless of the circumstances and that is part of the knowledge that I want to instill in my son; That is why I will strive to be the best father and the best man that I can, because I have already understood well that example can more than words.
