Teach Your Child To Love His Light And Accept His Shadow

Children must know that they have qualities, but also defects, and that this does not make them less valuable. Let’s teach them to accept their darkest parts.

Emotional education is one of the most important tasks that we must carry out as parents. Within it, teaching our child to develop a healthy relationship with himself is essential. Keep in mind that he will be the only person who will accompany you for the rest of your life and he will need to love himself unconditionally. To do this, you need to help him to see his light, but also to accept his shadow.

Building self-esteem is a long and complex process that must begin from childhood. Some parents believe that this is built up by complimenting their child, highlighting his qualities and praising him for his virtues.

Although this is undoubtedly necessary and positive, it is imperative that we also guide him on how to deal with his flaws and darker parts, since ultimately these are also part of who he is.

Teach your child to love his light

Upon entering the world, children are a blank canvas; They are small sponges that absorb all the information that comes from their environment without applying any type of filter. Parents have the brush in our hands to make the first strokes in his life’s work, to lay the foundations of his personality. Therefore, we must be responsible in the use we make of this privilege.

Everything you say to your child during his first years of life will be recorded in his unconscious. If you tell him he’s clumsy, lazy, too shy, or bad at math, these statements will become self-fulfilling prophecies. In some way, you are programming your little one’s mind, so it is important that you teach him to see his light.

To educate, a surefire guideline is to focus on the positive and reinforce it, rather than emphasizing and reprimanding the negative and fighting against it. Thus, get used to looking at your child with the eyes of someone who looks at an extraordinary work. Learn to see their virtues, their qualities, their strengths and their potential, and do not hesitate to remind them frequently.

Congratulate him on his achievements, his talents and his achievements. Applaud his bravery and little progress, and teach him to become his own cheerleader and best friend, too. Always speak nice to her, use positive, loving and uplifting words, and instill in her the habit of doing the same ; show him how to take care of his self-talk. This will begin to build a strong and healthy self-esteem.

Help him accept his shadow

However, the above is only half the process. All human beings have lights and shadows, qualities and defects and we need to be able to recognize them and look at them head on without fear. If you only focus on highlighting the positive aspects of your child, you run the risk that he will not know how to face his dark side when he meets her.

If you don’t teach him to accept his shadow, if you don’t tell him about it, he may think it’s unacceptable, that he shouldn’t be there. You may feel guilty about your failures and mistakes or experience fear when you discover that you harbor negative emotions such as anger, envy, or resentment. You have to make him understand, from an early age, that we are all dual and we have to accept ourselves as a whole.

So, allow him to express his fears, his anger, his hatred or his deep sadness. Join him as he explores and discovers that less kind side that we all possess and assure him that everything he feels is valid.

Also, remind him that making mistakes is human, that everyone makes mistakes, makes bad decisions, loses manners, or hurts others. The important thing is to accept it and work every day to improve.

A complete being

This learning is not something you can pass on to your child in one afternoon, sitting at the table in front of a hot chocolate. It is a daily work that must start with you, loving him unconditionally so that he learns to do the same. So that you know how to perceive yourself, naturally, as a complete being.

Help him to love himself through thick and thin, teach him to accept his shadow and to relate to it. This way you will be making sure that your child will never be alone, because he will always have someone who accepts him, supports him and understands him: himself.