Stepbrothers Who Live In The Same House. How To Make Them Get Along?
Getting two stepbrothers to get along can be a difficult endeavor to accomplish. The dream of parents, of raising two children of their own who are as close as drops of water and fit each other, does not always come true.
What to expect for two children who have just met, with different tastes, upbringings, values, ideas, and education, who, on top of all that, feel that they must dispute their place within the family nucleus that has just been formed?
Stepbrothers will get along as long as there is no jealousy between them
Although at first glance someone doubts it, the stepbrothers will get along well, in the first instance, if the family does not fan the jealousy between them :
This can be achieved if:
- Comparisons are avoided
- The members of the couple agree that each will give the same treatment to both their own child and that of the other, and the interests of neither will be put first.
- Not just the smallest child is pampered. Even when they are of different ages, the older child should receive the same treatment and affection as the little one.
Jealousy is a blindness that ruins hearts; Complaining and complaining do not represent signs of affection but of madness and discomfort. “
—Gasparo Gozzi—
Woman, even if you start a loving relationship with another person and bring your child to live at home; Even if you have a predilection for the child that you carried in your womb for 40 weeks, you must be very careful not to arouse jealousy in the other. Equality will be the best advisor and author of family harmony.
Your partner and the rest of the family should do the same. Both children need to be raised in an environment where they do not find one of them preferred; in a home where there are distinctions.
Keep in mind that jealousy only generates states of dissatisfaction, quarrels, disputes, envy between stepbrothers and once it is implanted it is quite difficult to eradicate.
Other top tips for getting stepbrothers on
In addition to avoiding jealousy, which is essential, there are other details that you must put into practice to avoid discord and not live in a holocaust that, sooner or later, will end your love relationship.
Among them we cannot fail to mention you:
Set and enforce the rules
Within any family, for order and peace to exist, certain rules of coexistence must be established. When a new home is being started and members from other homes converge within it, each one must know, understand, and comply with the rules that are dictated in the new home.
Both one child and the other must act and behave according to these guidelines and those who violate them must receive their reprimand.
That everyone has their responsibilities
Each child must know that he has responsibilities at home (unless it is a baby, of course) and that, for his tasks, as well as his stepbrother, he must respond.
Do not require your partner’s son to keep his room tidy when you spend the whole day tidying up your room.
Complaints are resolved by talking
Show your son and stepson that disputes between them, in no way, can be cleared up with yelling or hitting.
The members of a family, although they disagree with each other, cannot go to the fists.
Do not allow any of the complaints to exceed the limits and reach the lack of respect or violence.
As a mother, you must be attentive to any situation that is occurring to clarify it as soon as possible and reach a consensus, always talking.
“Your children are not your children: they are the sons and daughters of the yearning for life that life itself feels.”
-Khalil Gibran-
Give them love
Love is the best of all remedies, it is the fuel that a family needs the most to move on and be happy.
Give love to your son because he is the greatest treasure that life has given you, but also give it to that other who, hardly knowing him, and you begin to love him.
Love is a feeling that does not run out. The more love you give, the more love you will have to give.
