How Is Good Parenting Evidenced?

In general, parents strive to give our children a good upbringing, but not all the time we stop to evaluate how well we are doing and we do not know to what extent this can be perceived from the outside. How to know if we have educated him well? In what aspects do we look to find out?

Parenting is quite a difficult task that every parent wants to do well. However, sometimes love commits us to our way of carrying out the education of our children. In this sense, we become too permissive or undemanding, which is why the so-called “spoiled” children appear.

However, we have heard of the spoiled but not the “well-bred” ; all due to the fact that bad things are the first to be noticed. We ourselves as parents, in certain cases we make the mistake of seeing the shortcomings of the little ones and emphasizing them, without considering that their successes are greater than their mistakes.

So, to properly appreciate our work, we need to reflect on those aspects that make us feel proud of the way we have raised our children. We may find more reasons to be satisfied than to worry, but it is advisable to keep in mind that we are more responsible for their bad habits than they are.

Elements that distinguish a good breeding

It is very likely that others perceive better the aspects that make our children good, which is undoubtedly a product of the effort we have made. We often deny the successes we had to train them, because we do not appreciate the good things they do and we criticize them too much.

On the other hand, other times we dedicate ourselves to blaming children for their mistakes, when in fact it is our responsibility that they are acting in such a way. If a child is spoiled, it is up to us to correct his wrong behavior, which is achieved by evaluating the parenting methods that we have been using so far.

This issue is important because it reflects morally on the entire family group, we are talking about a wrong action that has direct consequences on the children. Likewise, as we evaluate children, also parents, because you cannot judge or praise one without the other.

For example, we could say that we have given him a good upbringing, if we agree with the following statements.

• My son is self-confident, I have noticed that he has high self-esteem, he makes friends easily and I have never received complaints about him from his teachers.
• There is excellent communication between my son and I, we are friends; he always tells me his things and asks me for help to solve his doubts.
• My family invites my son to their house because he is respectful, does not say bad words and is very obedient. In general, the adults he shares with have a good opinion of him, which is why they always take him into account.

• Although sometimes my son gets upset and is somewhat hyperactive; he is able to respond effectively to the discipline I impose on him and can control himself with ease.
• I trust my son to take responsibility for his studies, the order of his room and the care of his things. I can appreciate that he does not damage furniture or objects in the house, he is also tolerant of his brothers.
• The needs for affection are not a problem in my family, since the children have earned the care they need, without reason to throw tantrums or actions to attract attention.
• I have noticed that my son is grateful and accepts me as I am, always with great respect and appreciation for what I do. Also, he worries about me  when he sees me sick or I have a problem.
• My son shows me affection and accepts what I give him without any qualms.